Sexist, much?

I was disgusted when I read the status update on a da'wah FB page calling all women to take down their FB profile pictures. It gives the analogy of having men stare at you and drool over you and you'll be responsible for it.

Yes, to one extend that is true because we really need to be careful with the things we put online. But to another extend that is so sexist! Why? Because it takes two to tango, Mister! For me, kalau gambar tu tak menggoda dengan pakaian seksi, senyuman seksi, itu ini dan diletakkan dengan niat menggoda, I don't see the harm in it. Okay, hijabis yang duduk blog pasal themselves and fashion etc tu lain, sebab memang I sangat disagree with many of their ways. But that's another story altogether. Here, especially on FB or any other social networking websites, the pictures you put online are used so that people can identify who you are. Lagipun kan, aren't men also responsible kalau dia duduk goggle over a woman who is not his mahram? Kalau dia duduk save those pictures and do nasty things to them, bukankah dia jugak yang salah and will be accounted for it later?

Why is it that everyone is soooo concerned about women's clothes, pictures, this and that, but everyone puts a blind eye when put his pictures on FB, wearing shorts and sometimes shirtless. Takde orang pun keluarkan fatwa cakap tak elok itu ini. Why? Kalau dengan women, it's so easy to make things black and white but with men, banyak pulak ijtihadnya.

I'm not fighting over equal treatment of men and women. I don't believe in that - yes, I'm not a feminist. I believe a woman has her place and responsibilities, and a man has his place and responsibilities. I believe that men are the protectors of women and have some extent of control over them, which Allah has decreed. But I also believe that women can become independent, successful individuals not in spite of these controls but because of them. Itulah namanya didikan Islam yang mengajar manusia di mana limitations seseorang. Tapi kalau lelaki bagi macam-macam alasan perempuan tak boleh buat itu ini, tak boleh this and that, while turning a blind eye to the wrongdoings of men, that is what I call patriarchy and sexist. And that is far from what Islam preaches.

So stop taking pictures of women not wearing 'correct' hijab and clothings and whatever and putting them online dengan tujuan nak berdakwah la kononnya. Kawan awak yang main bola pakai seluar pendek tak pakai baju depan perempuan bukan mahramnya awak tak tegur pulak ye?